Myndaniðurstaða fyrir resources


Links to articles are here on the top of the page, books at the end. More resources are on the Icelandic part – “Fræðsla“.  Even though my introductions there are in Icelandic, nearly all the material is in English. Click on the links and you are in an English speaking environment.

Psychotherapy and psychopharmacologyMyndaniðurstaða fyrir frank anderson IFS

An Interview with Frank Anderson psychiatrist and IFS psychotherapist where he explores common questions and misconceptions about the use of medicine to aid therapy.

Bullying; effects on brain

See the source imageHere is a compilation of recent research on the effects of bullying on brain structures. Such brain  research is rather new compared to research on complex trauma. Findings indicate similar effects of bullying as of trauma and neglect in childhood and adolescence.  In my therapy approach, I define bullying as trauma and work with bullying survivors in a similar way. The difference I see might mostly concern the age of the survivor; bullying usually takes place later in childhood.

Internal Family System Therapy (IFS)Myndaniðurstaða fyrir ifs parts

A great deal of my work is based on this approach.  This is is an effective trauma orientated approach to clinical Psychotherapy. This inner work therapy works on healing personality / affective parts of us that are unwell. These parts are Managers of every day life and Firefighters who react compulsively when Managers cannot manage their job. Both these types of parts are Protectors who´s job is to protect us from our Exiled parts who hold pain. Their intentions are good but their methods are destructive. These parts are helped to heal so our Self can become our internal leader. The self is US (not a part), where connection, calmness, connection, clarity, courage, suriousity, compassion and confidence lives but is only to some extent accessible because of the actions of the parts. This is demonstrated in this 9 minutes VideoWorking with parts.

Gabor Maté On Childhood Trauma, The Real Cause Of Anxiety And Our ‘Insane’ Culture

Myndaniðurstaða fyrir gabor mateOne of Maté´s good articles. He is a leading expert thinker on the nature and causes of addictions, anxiety, ADHD and stress. Psychotherapy and support to people needs to take this into account. In my work as a Psychotherapist I am guided by such an approach.


The therapeutic relationship as an important part of healing

Myndani̡ursta̡a fyrir connectionAttachment difficulties can seriously impair our quality of life. It creates difficulties in relating and communicating to others in a nourishing deep way and in maintaining our relationships. Underlying is often anxiety, fear of other people and how they see us because we see ourselves in a negative shameful way. The origin of attachment difficulties is often in childhood and life re-enforces our believes. Here is a good article on how the therapeutic relationship can help to heal our relational difficulties Рwith others and ourselves.

Efficient way to stop criticising yourself

Myndaniðurstaða fyrir inner critic

This short cartoon  explains how the critic works and how I can help you to deal with it. Self-Critic can be so integrated in you that you do not even notice it, you think its normal, that this is “you .” But no! you do not need to accommodate it any longer. It is a voice that was created as a result of trauma or unfriendly behaviour of others towards you at some time in your life. Emotion focused therapy uses so called Chair-Work to shed light on the critic (as the cartoon shows so well) so you can let it go. Self-critisism can lead to depression and anxiety, particularly social anxiety, leading to isolation and  inability to live to your fullest capabilities.  The book “Embracing your inner critic: turning self-criticism into a creative asset” by Hal Stone and Sidra Stone is a good short book to start with.  And this article: Inner Critic: Eftir Sharon Good.

Books – suitable for the general public

Co-dependence, shame:

Homecoming: reclaiming and healing your inner child by John Bradshaw.

Healing the shame that binds you by John Bradshaw.

Co-dependence: healing the human condition by Charles L. Whitfield. My favourite co-dependence book.

Shame: the power of caring by Gershen Kaufmann.


Embracing your inner critic: turning self-criticism into a creative asset, by Hal Stone and Sidra Stone.

Attachment, child development, developmental trauma:

Why love matters: how affection shapes a baby´s brain by Sue Gerhardt.

A secure base: clinical applications of attachment theory by John Bowlby.


Overcoming destructive anger, strategies that work by Bernard Golden. A good model and log to explore own´s anger.


Positive psychology for overcoming depression by Miriam Akhtar. A good read to enhance positivity in one´s life.


Getting beyond sobriety by Michael Craig Clemmens. Addictions from a Gestalt perspective.

In the realm of hungry ghosts: close encounters with addictions by Gabor Maté. A compassionate / developmental view.

Trauma  –  see also above in “Attachment” section (developmental trauma):

The body remembers by Babette Rothschild.

8 keys to safe trauma recovery: Take-charge strategies to empower your healing by Babette Rothschild. Empathic self-help.

Walking the tiger by Peter Levine. A bit heavy reading.

The Trauma Centre at Justice Resource Institute, Boston USA: clinical services, research, courses, publications.

The body keeps the score by Bessel Van der Kolk. A good integrative summary of the trauma field.


Scattered: How attention deficit disorder originates and what you can do about it BGabor Mate. Developmental approach.