Practical issues

My sessions are 50 minutes once a week or less frequently depending on the individual´s interest, needs and financial capacity. I also offer online sessions with Zoom. My fees are 16.000 IKR, 15.000 for those who come weekly, next to be raised 1 September 2021. Most labour unions partly refund sessions with me to  their members.  I expect my clients to accept this framework for our work,. It includes information on where to seek emergency help if needed. I am primarily guided by IFS (Internal Family System) therapy and influenced by EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy) and use EMDR when appropriate. I seek regular consultations and continuing education, important quality measures in psychotherapy. My practice adheres to the official safety measures for the Covid-19 virus in Iceland


Myndaniðurstaða fyrir compassionAdult individual therapy

I work with people who are burdened by a lack of self-worth, guilt, self-criticism, anger, shame, loneliness, emptiness, sense of rejection and oppression. I work with people who experience loss, problems in their relationships, depression and various forms of anxiety. I work with issues underlying addiction and co-dependence. I help adults to work through childhood attachment trauma of abuse, neglect and unmet needs as well as other kind of trauma, including bullying. I work with people who experience existential or identity crisis, are insecure in who they are or what they want in life and guide people who wish to make changes in their behaviour and life.


How I workDialogue by Nancy Schon.

My approach is Integrative – it integrates methods and assumptions of various Humanistic approaches and aims for inner harmony. I work primarily with personal (personality) parts, through experiencing, understanding, befriending, expressing them and help them to let go of the burdens they hold.  I believe every person has an intact inner Self; a healing power. I promote an inner attitude of self-acceptance, trust, curiosity and self-compassion. I work with the present and explore how it might be affected by the past. I work through the therapeutic relationship within safe ethical boundaries at a pace suitable for each client. I promote collaborative work where I see both me and my clients as active, knowledgeable and responsible participants.  All parts of my clients are welcome to come forward. I am willing to go with my clients into their deep dark parts in a safe, respectful, accepting manner. I am regulated by the EAP code of ethics.  As a Registered Nurse I am also regulated by laws and regulations for the conduct of Health Care Professionals in Iceland and the codes of Icelandic Nurses.

I encourage and guide my clients to develop a routine of self-care between sessions; like staying with own inner states, meditations, outdoor activities, strengthening relations and a healthy sleep routine. Inner strength is increased in the same manner as muscular strength: by regular practice that increases the capacity to handle distressing situations when they arise. Some of my suggestions for self-care are available in the “Self-care” section.


More about my approaches

I am primarily guided by three compatible evidence-supported approaches; Internal Family System Therapy (my main modality),  Emotion Focused Therapy and EMDR.  I am further guided by Attachment Theory, the work of Bessel Van der Kolk, Gabor Maté, Janina Fisher as well as Neurobiology and Polyvagal theory. My initial integrative training was attachment and Gestalt focused.

Internal Family System Therapy my main approachA Few Lessons Leaders Can Learn From The Movie Inside Out | by Sandeep Kashyap | Medium

is an empirically supported trauma oriented approach. IFS views a person as containing an ecology of relatively discrete minds (parts, aspects of personality), each of which are designed to play a valuable role in the person´s life. Life experiences can force the parts out of their roles and reorganise the inner system in distressing and polarised ways. While the intentions of the parts are only good, their methods are harmful in their extreme forms. Parts are helped to heal, let go of their extreme behaviour so our Self can become our internal leader and healer and IFS becomes a way of life. Here the founder of the model explains it and shows an example of how IFS inner work can begin.

Emotion Focused TherapyImage result for emotion focused therapy

is an empirically supported humanistic treatment that views emotions as centrally important in human functioning and therapeutic change, summarised as “changing emotions with emotions“. Here is how the International Society for Emotion Focused Therapy (ISEFT) defines this approach. Here Leslie Greenberg, one of the founders of the approach,  explains it and why it works.

EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and ReprocessingHow EMDR Therapy can Resolve Trauma

is an empirically supported trauma therapy. It does not require much talking about the distressing issue. Eye movements, directed by the therapist, are used to help resolve unprocessed traumatic memories in the brain. The traumatic event will still be remembered but without the enduring inhibiting emotions and thoughts associated with it.  Kati Morton explains the process and why it works in a short video.