Practical issues

My sessions are 50 minutes once a week or less frequently depending on the individual´s interest, needs and financial capacity. I also offer online sessions on Zoom. My fees are 16.000 IKR, to be raised 1 September to 17.000 and time extended to 60 minutes. Fees are and will remain 15.000 for those who come weekly. Most labour unions partly refund session for their members: please check your (if any) union for their rules. I expect my clients to accept this framework for our work. I am primarily guided by IFS (Internal Family System) therapy and influenced by EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy) and use EMDR when appropriate. I seek regular consultations, personal therapy and continuing education, important quality measures in psychotherapy. My practice adheres to public safety measures for the Covid-19 virus in Iceland. It should be noted here that contrary to most of the western world, Psychotherapy is not a recognised health care profession in Iceland so Icelandic licensing is not available. 

Emergency services: I do not offer emergency services. Should you need help NOW in this moment, there are several places you can contact.  Please do not hesitate  to reach out to them – they are there for you, now this minute.


Myndaniðurstaða fyrir compassionIndividual therapy for adults

I work with people who are burdened by a lack of self-worth, guilt, self-criticism, anger, shame, loneliness, emptiness, sense of rejection, excessive responsibility and oppression. I work with people who experience loss, problems in their relationships, depression, isolation, anger and various forms of anxiety and fear. I work with issues underlying addiction and co-dependence. I help adults to work through childhood attachment trauma of abuse, neglect and unmet needs as well as other kind of trauma. I work with people who experience existential or identity crisis, are insecure in who they are or what they want in life and guide people who wish to make changes in their behaviour and life. I am willing to go with my clients into their deep dark and perhaps resented parts in a safe, respectful, accepting manner and at their own pace.


How I workDialogue by Nancy Schon.

My approach is Integrative – it integrates methods and assumptions of various Humanistic approaches and aims for inner harmony. I work primarily with personal (personality) parts, through experiencing, understanding, befriending, expressing them and help them to let go of the burdens they hold.  I believe every person has an intact inner Self; a healing power, self-leadership abilities. I promote an inner attitude of self-acceptance, trust, curiosity and self-compassion. I work with the present and explore how it might be affected by the past. I work through the therapeutic relationship within safe ethical boundaries at a pace suitable for each client. I promote collaborative work where I see both me and my clients as active, knowledgeable and responsible participants.  I am willing to go with my clients into their deep dark and perhaps resented parts in a safe, respectful, accepting manner and at their own pace. I am regulated by the EAP code of ethics.  As a Registered Nurse I am also regulated by the public system and the ethical codes of Icelandic Nurses.

I encourage and guide my clients to develop a routine of self-care between sessions; like staying with own inner states, meditations, outdoor activities, strengthening relations and a healthy sleep routine. Inner strength is increased in the same manner as muscular strength: by regular practice that increases the capacity to handle distressing situations when they arise. Some of my suggestions for self-care are available in the “Self-care” section.


More about my approaches

I am primarily guided by three compatible evidence-supported approaches; Internal Family System Therapy (my main modality),  Emotion Focused Therapy and EMDR.  I am further guided by Attachment Theory, the work of Bessel Van der Kolk, Gabor Maté, Janina Fisher as well as Neurobiology and Polyvagal theory. My initial integrative training was attachment and Gestalt focused.

Internal Family System Therapy my main approachA Few Lessons Leaders Can Learn From The Movie Inside Out | by Sandeep Kashyap | Medium

is an empirically supported comprehensive trauma oriented model that has been celebrated by the world-leading experts Gabor Maté and Bessel van der Kolk. IFS views a person as containing an ecology of relatively discrete minds (parts, aspects of personality), each of which are designed to play a valuable role in the person´s life. Life experiences can force the parts out of their roles and reorganise the inner system in distressing and polarised ways. While the intentions of the parts are only good, their methods are harmful in their extreme forms. Parts are helped to heal, let go of their extreme behaviour so our Self can become our internal leader and healer and IFS becomes a way of life. Here the founder of the model, Richard Schwartz, explains it and shows an example of how IFS inner work can begin. Here is an in depth interview with Schwartz about IFS.

Emotion Focused TherapyImage result for emotion focused therapy

is an empirically supported humanistic treatment that views emotions as centrally important in human functioning and therapeutic change, summarised as “changing emotions with emotions“. Here is how the International Society for Emotion Focused Therapy (ISEFT) defines this approach. Here Leslie Greenberg, one of the founders of the approach,  explains it and why it works.

EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and ReprocessingHow EMDR Therapy can Resolve Trauma

is an empirically supported trauma therapy. It does not require much talking about the distressing issue. Eye movements, directed by the therapist, are used to help resolve unprocessed traumatic memories in the brain. The traumatic event will still be remembered but without the enduring inhibiting emotions and thoughts associated with it.  Kati Morton explains the process and why it works in a short video.